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In Remembrance Of Hailey

11.26.2013
I had a blog post planned for today, but I had to push it aside as I felt my heart strings being tugged in a different direction. I need to write. 
 
As Jon and I drove home last night from our date night I spoke with my baby sister on the phone and listened as she cried and told me of a friend in her school, Hailey, who committed suicide a few nights ago. My sister is in 8th grade. This young teenage girl was in 7th grade. 7th grade. My sister went on to tell me that this girl had lots of friends, but was repeatedly bullied by the same crowd. They wrote nasty things about her in the bathroom stalls. Those nasty things were left, inked on the stalls for Hailey herself to go in and scrub off because she just couldn't take reading it.
 
My heart is shattered. I ache at the thought of a girl feeling so helpless and alone she chose to take her life. My heart hurts for her family who is left daughterless and broken when the holidays are just beginning. I am left to wonder, did anyone see her cry out for help? Why did no one save her? I have a pit in my stomach at the thought of young kids being able to make a human feel so degraded and worthless. My defense goes into overdrive at the thought that my sister goes to school with these bullies. That she had to witness this act and feel pain.

It honestly makes it hard for me to want to bring children into the world we live in today. And that's just disgusting. But Jon and I have to remember that we have to teach our (future) children strength and dignity. To love and serve the Lord with all their heart. To stand up for what is right. To know the difference between right and wrong. To be humble in who they are. And that they can come to us with anything because home is their safe place and we will always be there with open arms.
 
What keeps my head up and faith in my heart is that we serve a diligent and rewarding God. He has the master plan. He promises He is in control. He teaches us lessons through wonderful and ugly situations.

For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ,  who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build one another up.
1 Thessalonians 5:9-11  

Please say a prayer for Hailey's family and those who knew her. I never met her, but even the tiniest part of her story touched my heart and reminded me life is short and precious. I hate that it takes an event like this to take place for that reminder.

If this story has touched you and if you felt led, you are more than welcome to wear green for Hailey on Monday, December 2nd and show support for her family. If you do please tag me on Instagram @themoderntulip and use the hashtag #riphaileyhouck and I will make sure to share that with my sister and her classmates.
 Rest in peace, Hailey. You will be unharmed now.


15 comments on "In Remembrance Of Hailey"
  1. This is absolutely heart breaking, especially because I am a future middle school teacher. She will be in my prayers tonight. xo

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  2. People don't understand the power of words anymore. Keeping her, your sister and her family in my prayers. Thanks for sharing.

    › xo fal • falfindshappiness.blogspot.com

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  3. This is heartbreaking! Kids can be so cruel these days--and it's unfortunate that it can happen well into your college years as well. I will be keeping her family in my prayers.

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  4. This is so heartbreaking. The way people (both children and adults) treat each other these days is sad. There needs to be more respect for our fellow beings. My daughter isn't much younger than sweet Hailey, she's in 5th. I hope that my children never have to go through this nonsense and I certainly hope that they aren't growing into people who would ever treat people that way.

    My heart breaks for Hailey's family and friends. I cannot imagine the pain they are going through. They are living every parents biggest nightmare and my heart is with them during this time.

    My thoughts and prayers are being sent. Sweet child, may you now eternally rest in peace and in love. *hugs*

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  5. So, so, so sad!!!
    Thinking of this girl and her family!

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  6. This brought tears to my eyes. Praying for her family during this heartbreaking time.

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  7. My heart is aching for her. I understand your fear of having children. Although Ronnie and I want to be parents, these kind of stories make me so afraid. The world we live in is just so dark and hopeless at times. As a follower of Christ, we can only teach our children to live for something other than this life. Praying for her family.

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  8. My heart is aching for this poor girl and her family, she was so beautiful. RIP beautiful girl, and sending prayers for her family in this time.

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  9. That is so so terrible! I swear kids can be so mean in school and they don't realize until a life is lost, no wonder more parents are homeschooling. I will pray for your sister and Hailey's family.

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  10. This is absolutely heart breaking. I feel for her family and friends. Praying for your sister and Hailey's family.

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  11. this is awful...prayers for your sister and her family. i think about that a lot---parents should not have to be worried when sending their children to school--it SHOULD be a safe place. love that scripture verse...and the reminder. :)

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  12. One of my favorite bible verses. This is terrible. Praying and thinking of her family. I just can't even imagine.

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  13. Oh my gosh. My heart breaks. Seventh grade??? SO, so sad. That beautiful girl had so much life ahead of her. Kids are so mean now a days!! It's awful. I mean did the teachers (even custodians!) not notice anything??? Or did that just choose to ignore it? We'll never know. It's too late. Praying for your sister, Hailey's family, friends, & even the bullies. They def need the power of prayer to help them change before they do something like this again!

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  14. Beautiful tribute. I completely agree on being worried about having kids when things are the way they are. Looks like she was a beautiful, sweet girl- sad that some of her peers chose to diminish that instead of appreciate it. Thoughts & prayers to your sister, their other classmates, and her family.

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  15. Such a shame, hopefully those bullies had a huge reality check.
    Beautiful girl, I'm sorry for your sisters loss. <3

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