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Tips For A Happy Marriage

8.25.2014

It's no secret Jon and I spend a lot of time together being business owners. We've been married for a little over two years and for the last year we have spent 24 hours a day together, 6 - 7 days a week. You do the math - that's a lot of time to spend with your spouse. Because of this we get a lot of comments from friends and family who say they could never do it themselves and they can't believe we haven't killed each other yet.

Early in our first months of dating when we both knew we were meant to be and marriage became a topic we discussed openly together, we both expressed that marriage wasn't something either of us would ever give up on. We both agreed, divorce is never an option. Starting with that agreement and with Christ at the root of our marriage, we built a firm foundation for our marriage early on.

Not every day is easy, but we have some tips on how we keep our marriage alive even when we spend almost every waking (and sleeping) hour together.

FLIRT 
It's easy to get comfortable after the early butterflies ware off, but nothing lights a spark like flirtation. You can remember when a boy simply walked past you, whispering a flirty comment in your ear leaving you blushing and grinning like a buffoon. Yeah, that feeling. We all love it. We all need it.

COMMUNICATION
This has to be the most important lesson I have learned in my own marriage and what I've noticed from failed marriages I've seen around me. You can not expect your spouse to know what you are thinking! Even if you do spend every waking hour together, it's impossible! Speak up, be vocal about how you feel, what you need, and make sure to lend that ear right back to your spouse when they need to speak up. 

PHYSICAL TOUCH
This is where I raise my hand high. I have to have physical tough to feel loved and satisfied. I simply love holding hands in the car, Jon putting his arm around my waist when we're walking, cuddles, a pinch on the booty or my favorite, when he randomly plants one on me out of nowhere. We are human and we all need human touch. Take the time to spontaneously just run up behind your spouse and squeeze them and tell them you love them. It can change their mood entirely.

QUIET TIME
We all have hectic schedules, right? It's becoming the norm, but that doesn't mean we don't need our quiet time. And I'm not talking quiet time just with your spouse. I'm talking "me" time. I get desperate for it when I'm with my hubs constantly and it's not a bad thing. It simply means I need time to recuperate, turn off my brain and a chance to miss my husband. I'll sneak away for a bubble bath or wake up early to have the silent house to myself. Just find a quiet moment for you. 

SPONTANEITY
It's nice to break out of the norm because schedules can tend to rule our lives. We all need a little adventure and who better to experience it with than your spouse? I always love when we do something spontaneous like a day trip where we just get in the car and drive. We have made some really fun memories doing this! Sometimes Jon and I will get home and he will say, "go change, we're going out." I love being whisked away on a date even though we just spent the entire day together!

What do you and your spouse do to keep the spark alive? 

13 comments on "Tips For A Happy Marriage"
  1. We're just starting out on the having the same job thing where we'll be spending much more time together than we ever have. I think it will be fun--the whole time we've been married we've wished for a schedule where we could hang out more--but I definitely agree that even when you're together a lot, it's important to put the time and effort into actual dates.

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  2. Yall are too cute and these are great tips!! Communication is super super important! We also make sure to have date nights. It is easy to get wrapped up in our kids and we need to step back and spend time with each other- no kids!

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  3. Great tips! I totally agree with quiet time! I am the worst at it but that's okay, my husband balances me out! Isn't it awesome how a Christ-centered marriage is a HUGE testimony in the world?

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  4. Quiet time and being spontaneous are 2 things I've been trying to be better at lately! Also, saying no to a lot of things so that we can have some good quality time, together :) Flirting, for sure! You two are so cute!

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  5. What an excellent post! My fiance and I spend all our time together since I work with him. 24hrs/ 7 days a week. I completely understand the importance of keeping the spark alive. Finding that time for intimacy within all the crazy schedules is the most important I feel. That time to reconnect. Thank you for sharing :)

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  6. So many wonderful tips! Communication was our biggest hump to get over as newlyweds but it is so important. Y'all are just precious together :)

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  7. I love all of these! Such great reminders that can easily be forgotten!

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  8. These are all great. I love #3! My hand is up high for that one too!

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  9. I love all this tips. I would add time away from each other.

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  10. This is soo cute! I definitely need to be reminded to always say what you're thinking. I always expect him to know. haha Thanks for the reminders! :)

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