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My Fears As A Mommy-To-Be

11.19.2014

So many people asked me once I got pregnant if I was scared. I looked at them like they were absolutely crazy! Scared of what? I'm pregnant after trying for over a year. Umm.. super grateful and overjoyed, YES. Scared? Absolutely not. 

I realized something recently. That has changed.

Although the excitement of pregnancy exists in my heart everyday I find myself starting to realize in a few short months Maddox will be in my arms. He will be mine to comfort, feed, clean, occupy, and entertain. That makes me so giddy with excitement I can't even explain it! But it also brings a sense of nervousness and so many "what if's" to my mind.

What if I don't know what he wants?

What if I don't wake up to him crying in the middle of the night?

What if I draw his bath water and it's too hot and I hurt him?

What if I fall asleep with him on my chest and drop him?

What if I have 50 different false alarms for labor? How will I know what's real?

What if I expose him to germs too early and he gets sick?

What if I fall asleep breastfeeding him in the middle of the night?

What if I don't shower for days?

What if I have no energy to give to my husband because it's all being given to Maddox?

What if I forget to feed my dogs because of my lack of sleep?

The reality is that all of these "what if's" are completely justified, but totally silly. God has entrusted me with one of His beautiful creations and He will provide me with everything I need as a new mother. Strength, grace and abounding love.

I still can't help but worry just a tad that I won't live up to my own expectations as a momma.  I'll have to learn to give myself some of that grace.

Did you have worries and fears as a new expecting mother?

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19 comments on "My Fears As A Mommy-To-Be"
  1. I had all the same worries but you know what? For some reason you actually know what todo when that baby is placed in your arms because God blesses mommy's with a mommy instinct and you will have one, you'll know exactly what to do and exactly what your baby needs, just make sure you trust that gut ;)

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  2. Every Mom worries about all of those things! Rest easy though...you just kind of figure it all out! You are going to be an awesome mommy!

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  3. I of all people do not have the answers. But I am praying for you and sending you all the good vibes and I think the desire to be a good mom always out weighs everything else!

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  4. ohh i totally feel your pain! i worry about everything too but whenever i do my husband reminds me that ppl have been taking care of babies for years and we'll be okay :) i think he is right. it'll be a challenge for sure but just try to focus on the positive and everyday victories! xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  5. Right as I was getting to the bottom I thought to myself "Oh but Maegen, He has picked YOU to be Maddox's mommy and you will be perfect!" Then you pretty much said it :) I know it's totally normal to have these thoughts though, I have thoughts and I'm not even pregnant yet haha. You & Jon will learn as you go just like all the other first timers, and you 2 will be amazing parents <3

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  6. Your instincts will kick in, I'm sure. And you will be doing everything out of love, so that's all that matters. i know you will rock it!

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  7. Absolutely love your response to all of those concerns... You hit the nail on the head, mama!!

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  8. I have so many fears. I'm not even close to getting pregnant (well not that I know of!) but seriously...it feels like I would just be a kid taking care of another kid? ah, I'm not an adult!

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  9. Being a first time mom has got to be incredibly hard, but remember, you are made to do this and so much of it will be natural instinct. It will definitely be an adjustment but I'm sure you will be an awesome mom!!

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  10. I was freaking out the other night about the responsibility of keeping another human being ALIVE! It's crazy, right?! Instinct will take over - YOU'LL BE GREAT!
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  11. I am expecting my first baby (also a boy) at the end of December, and your list of fears mirrors mine almost 100%! I am so scared that I may do something wrong and forever ruin his life or raise him wrong or not teach him how to treat people or how to be a good person. I am worried about time and making sure my own mental wellbeing is taken care of, in addition to making sure the life I have created and am responsible for is provided for the best I can. I am worried that I will always put him first and let my marriage suffer. I am also scared of labor and delivery!

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  12. You definitely aren't the only one to have these fears. I always wonder about how my future little ones are going to turn out. I know I will do my best as a mother but what if they hate me anyways? :(

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  13. All of those worries are totally natural. Just remember that YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES. And that is 1000% okay. Expected even! Give yourself TONS of grace in that first year of Maddox's life. It's a crazy adjustment. Babies throw you for a loop. Heaven knows I've made my share of mistakes as Joshua's mom. Joshua has had a few bonks, scrapes, or even minor burns due to poor judgement (or lack of thinking) on my part. Sometimes I lose my patience with him and I yell. But you know what? At the end of the day all that matters is that your kid knows you love him no matter what and that you would go to the ends of the Earth and back for him. I have absolutely zero doubt in my mind that Maddox will know that. You have the sweetest heart and you will be an incredibly loving mother. That's the stuff that really counts. And you will do great with all the rest too. Just remember you deserve grace. :)

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  14. All of those worries are totally justified! I hope it doesn't make you feel worse, but you will probably do most of those things and more, but that is OKAY. Adjusting to life with a baby is a crazy thing and even though I will have a much better understanding of what I am doing this time around, I still worry about things like that! I know there will be things that I don't know how to tackle this time around and that won't change until they are grown! This parenting this is tough, but my goodness is it rewarding! :) My advice would be to not read too many things in preparation--you will stress yourself out even more! Just educate yourself, as questions when you can, and just know that the Lord will take care of you, your husband, and sweet Maddox!

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  15. I worry about the same things already!! I mean, hello, I'm not even pregnant ha! I think it's normal for all women to do that though. Seems like it is anyways, ha! You are going to be a wonderful, sweet, fun mother!

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  16. I'm not even pregnant, and I worry about some of those things! You will be such a great Mama, I just know it!!

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  17. You will do wonderful because God has chosen you! I'm not a mother so I can't relate to these exact fears but God's grace is a wonderful thing!

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  18. I actually didn't have any worries about the baby and TONS of anxiety about labor and delivery. And of course the labor and delivery was awful and having a baby was easy and wonderful! It's amazing how you'll just kind of know what to do and how to do it, even if you've never been around newborns before! And if you get frustrated, just remember that no mom knows what the heck she's doing.

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  19. You're going to be a phenomenal mother! We all make mistakes but it's how you handle everything after the mistakes that will define you.

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