Top Social

Real Talk || The First Week of Mamahood || New/Expecting Moms, Please Read

3.27.2015

I can't believe my Maddox is already a week old! So cliche, but I'd love for time to slow down already! This week has been a whirlwind of family and friends visiting to meet our little man and shower him with love. It's been such a blessing seeing the joy he brings to all of their faces. Little man is seriously L-O-V-E-D.

I am working on my birth story so hold tight - it's coming!

I did want to take a moment to document the roller coaster this first week has been. Not only for myself and the memories I want to document, but for other ladies who are about to experience childbirth and mamahood for the first time. Looking back I can't remember ever reading any woman's experience about the first week of becoming a mother other than the cute pictures plastered on Instagram. I feel like had I read someone's reality, I would have had a different perspective. I was naive enough to think everything was going to be rainbows and butterflies. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of beautiful, cherishable moments! But there are also some really dark moments that I don't hear a lot of women talk about. So I'm going to share my heart today in the form of a letter to myself. I hope this brings peace to a mama in her first week of mamahood.

Maegen,

Your dream became a reality. You are a mama! You made it through childbirth and though it was difficult and painful, those memories will soon fade in a matter of days and you will simply just remember hearing your son's cry for the first time and watching your husbands face change in a way that will be imprinted on your heart forever.

You won't get much rest this week. Forget full nights, HECK, even half nights of sleep. You are going to feel as if your world has come unglued and may never come together again. But I promise it will. The first few nights are the hardest. Once you leave the hospital and you finally have some stillness and a sense of normality at home, things will still be hard. You are learning your son. What his different cries mean, what his body signals are communicating, how he likes to sleep, how he likes to be held. It's all new. Don't be frustrated, he didn't come with a manual.

He won't have a schedule right away. That's for you to create. You can read every article you want about newborn sleep patterns and feeding schedules, but in reality this is your child and God made Him unique. He will tell you when he's hungry and quite often it's every hour. He will tell you if he hates being swaddled and you can try something new until you find what he likes. Hold tight, it will soon become easier and you will feel like you've got this mama thing down to a science (until the next curve-ball is thrown).

You will feel like you may never feel normal again. The house is a wreck, the thought of make-up makes you cringe and a shower seems like a half marathon. Your body hurts (you just gave birth to a child that you carried for 41 weeks) and now you are expected to produce milk for your child and be a constant drinking fountain. Savor it. These moments aren't going to last forever. The love you feel for that child when you look down at him is enough to get you through the next few days. 

Studying your Bible and reading a devotion each day will you give you such a sense of peace that your soul is craving. When you feel hopeless, pray. When tears fill your eyes, open His word and let Him wash you with grace. I promise you will feel Him as quickly as you blink your eyes and a sense of calm will rush over you.

Snuggle Jon. His world was just rocked too, don't forget about him. Maddox needs you, but so does Jon. He needs his wife to remind him this is a phase and a sense of normality is just around the corner! He needs to be reminded Maddox needs you more right now, but there will be a day when all he wants is his Daddy. Use Jon for your benefit too. He will give you the comfort and push you need to get through the next moment. Fall into each others arms and make yourself a team.

Sleep when you can. I know you were never a day napper before, but you better start! When help is around take the opportunity to nap, don't feel the need to entertain. When you are alone and he sleeps, rest. Forget the dishes, they don't matter. Get your rest so you can feel refreshed and be the best mom and wife you can be.

Don't be afraid to leave your house. A simple walk out your front door, soaking up some Vitamin D will make you feel like a new woman! If you really want to feel accomplished, load up Maddox in his car seat and go somewhere. The park, Target, the office, out to lunch with hubby... somewhere. You are going to realize it seems daunting to cross that threshold with your new bundle because you have no clue how he will act, but as soon as you do, you will realize it's not that hard and it makes you feel normal and accomplished. And Maddox can adapt to your life. The sooner he does, the better.

Most importantly, soak it up. It's only been 7 days and Maddox has already gained his own personality and grown up right before your eyes. Savor this time because he is your first child and will always have a special place in your heart. You can't re-live this chaotic bliss.

Kiss that face. Constantly.


31 comments on "Real Talk || The First Week of Mamahood || New/Expecting Moms, Please Read"
  1. This is beautiful! I've got months to go, but I'm already starting to panic a little bit about bringing home a baby! I love your sweet soul, Maegen! It's helped to calm down mine for right now.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Gosh, you almost have me in tears! Hang in there, the craziness is only temporary. Can't wait to see you and meet the little guy!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Your heart...I just love it! Praying this next week continues to smooth out for you guys! And I can't even handle that little face...he's too precious!

    ReplyDelete
  4. This is amazing! My daughter is due to arrive in June and I needed to read something like this. I know it'll be hard and a struggle, but I like that you map out what will be hard and encourage mama to just push through. I might have to print this out and stick it somewhere in the nursery to read that first week we are home together. Thank you for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
  5. I love this! I have 4 weeks (hopefully, or less) to go and am kind of dreading the first couple weeks. This is definitely helpful. Hope you're doing well, mama! xo

    ReplyDelete
  6. Congrats this is so exciting!! Any type of change, especially a big one like this, is difficult at first but you will quickly develop a routine and everything will be okay. Remember to take time for Mama Bear. You need that me time!

    Ginny
    www.buttergirldiaries.com

    ReplyDelete
  7. This is amazing! I'll likely need it come August :) or maybe come November when I head back to work... Or maybe always for the next few years!

    ReplyDelete
  8. I love this! Saving this post for the future when I have a babe of my own :) hang in there momma!

    ReplyDelete
  9. aww love this!! thanks so much for sharing! I know the first month was rough for one of my friends. People don't tell you the reality of it all!

    ReplyDelete
  10. So wonderful, thank you for sharing! We have our first little on the way in June and it is great to hear (the good and not as good) of what is to come :) Congratulations on your little bundle of cuteness!

    ReplyDelete
  11. Reading this and work and tearing up. So happy for you and Jon. Maddox is adorable. {Please tell me he has chubby little legs with rolls - that's my favorite thing ever on babies!} You are fabulous and I will read this again in the future when I'm preparing for this scary week. You made it! I would say happy weekend but weekends with a baby aren't much different than Monday - Friday!}

    ReplyDelete
  12. awe- so sweet! you are doing an awesome job and maddox and jon are lucky to have you! he's adorable - thinking and praying for you all! ♥

    ReplyDelete
  13. I love this! You are doing great mama! He is absolutely beautiful!

    ReplyDelete
  14. This is such a beautiful way to share your first week as a mama and your beautiful heart! I can't wait for you to share even more of it <3

    ReplyDelete
  15. Beautiful! I love this! Xo, Stephanie

    ReplyDelete
  16. This is beautiful and so perfect and real. I felt the SAME way when my daughter was born. I was even asking myself (as terrible as it sounds) why did I do this? When will my life be normal again? I can promise you it's just a phase, a hard phase - but a phase nonetheless and soon everything will be much better. Another thing I can promise you, is that this is the only time you'll feel like this. When you're second comes, you are already a pro and they just fit right in :)
    Hang in there. You're doing a great job xoxo

    ReplyDelete
  17. beautiful post. can't wait to hear about your birth story!

    ReplyDelete
  18. I don't even remember the first seven days - it was such a blur! But Clara was a sleepy baby so she slept through most of them, actually. Also, I remember crying on her sixth day because I didn't want her to be a week old because she'd never be LESS than a week old again. Yep, I'll just go ahead and blame the hormones on that one... But I hope you're enjoying this time! It sounds like you are. Although, if you're not 100% enjoying this time don't feel guilty, either, it's okay not to cherish every single moment!

    ReplyDelete
  19. This was such a beautiful post! I'm sure so many appreciate your honesty and for being candid about the first week with a newborn. Looking forward to your birth story!

    ReplyDelete
  20. never did I read such an honest letter on 'that first week'. I often read stories on motherhood and that first week and think was I the only one that found it quite hard and emotional!! such a great post. He is so beautifulxx

    ReplyDelete
  21. very well done! I love honest posts like these, please keep them coming. I'm in my 16th week and am so nervous/excited for what lies ahead.

    ReplyDelete
  22. My son also hated being swaddled. He always wanted his hands by his face so we would leave it a little looser so he could bring his arms up. Do what's best for you and Maddox and it will all work out!

    I love that you made this post. It's so true that no one tells you what that first week is going to be like. i honestly don't remember much from it but I wish I had done this too. You rock lady. Keep on going!

    ReplyDelete
  23. This is so so sweet. I think it's great that you are writing this and sharing it with others too. :) What a cutie he is!! :) XO - Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

    ReplyDelete
  24. So precious! I love that you documented the first week!

    ReplyDelete
  25. Love this and he is such a beauty! Congratulations!!!
    ~Bre

    ReplyDelete
  26. Thank you for being so honest, real and raw and opening up. Since it is not that long ago that I became a mom this brought tears to my eyes as well. He is beautiful and healthy and that's what matters. At the end though we may not be the world's perfect mom, we do our best. And remember a Mother Always Knows Best!

    Hugs <3 Ada.

    ReplyDelete
  27. I was scrolling through your previous blog post via bloglovin' and stumbled on this post. As I sit here a working wife and 31 week pregnant soon to be mommy I cried as I read this post. I have so many emotions as I am so ready for our first child to enter this world and this post brought so much light to so many things I've already wondered or thought. I hope to re read this after our first week with him in hopes to remind myself of all these things. I love your blog.

    ReplyDelete

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I respond to all comments via email :)