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Investing In Friendship

5.18.2016

top (under $40, comes in a few different colors) | denim ($13) & similar denim | jacket | sunglasses | heels | ring | purse | bracelet

There was a time in my life (a little over a year ago) when I felt like I had no friends. I had the occasional girlfriend, but it was beyond casual. I was a happy wife, but my life consisted of working and spending time with my husband. I was so desperate for deep female friendship that I spent so many nights begging God for friends. It sounds so pitiful and desperate, but it's true.

Once I found out I was pregnant with Maddox I contemplated joining the moms group at our church. It consisted of meeting once a month for two hours with other moms of all statutes, sharing a breakfast, devotion and some small talk. I was hesitant to join because I didn't have a physical child in my arms yet, had no clue what being a mother looked like and beyond that, I was so desperate for friends I was almost scared to go looking for them.

One Sunday, this moms group had a booth set up in our lobby after service. Jon literally shoved me in their direction. Gently holding my baby belly I walked up to the two women standing in front of the booth and said, "I'm not a mom, but I'd love to join once I am." I will never forget, my now friend Lauren, grabbed my shoulders and said, "Are you kidding me? You are a mom! You are joining!"

And that was that.

In the last year I have been curating friendships with dozens of mothers. My heart has been shaped and transformed by these women. I now know what it feels like to be invested in by my friends and what it feels like to turn around and invest back into those friendships. I have the opportunities to bless expecting moms who are exactly where I was a little over a year ago with that sheepish grin and welcome them with open arms.

My weeks are full of playdates, momlife stories shared, lots of coffee and text messages exchanging momlife moments of the day.

God fulfilled a total void in my heart. But my biggest take away, something I reflect on daily, is being intentional to invest in these friendships. Invest in those around you who check in, send you cards, take time to send you a simple text. Pour back into those people in your life. It comes full circle.


9 comments on "Investing In Friendship"
  1. I always love how God orchestrates those great meetings. Such a cute outfit!

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  2. Girl, you are KILLING it with the maternity clothes!

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  3. I love the message of this post. I'm in that inbetween stage of life right now - it's been hard for us to make friends in our new town since we didn't grow up here and are sometimes considered outsiders - but I'm hopeful that once we start a family I'll be able to create friendships with other like-minded women and mothers who are in the same stage of life. I'm so glad that that happened for you! Also, more gorgeous photos of you, girl!

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  4. Your outfit is impeccable!
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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  5. Your outfit is impeccable!
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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  6. This makes me so happy! Friends are essential and I'm so glad you found good ones!!

    Her Heartland Soul
    Herheartlandsoul.com

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  7. I had a very similar experience - because we moved back to the US when I was pregnant, and knew nobody, when my husband bumped into a woman with children Bug's age at the pediatrician and told him about a local mom's group, he pretty much forced me to click "join group" on Facebook. And then constantly asked me when I was going to an event lol. The first one was sooooo awkward - for about five minutes. And now I have several wonderful mom friends, many of whom go to the church we started going to, and our kids now have friends too! It's a community beyond our wildest dreams. Being intentional with these friendships has been so beneficial to us all!
    PS - you look adorable! :)

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  8. So true, girlfriends are the best! I have only made a couple friends (through work) since college - it's hard as an adult! Once I have kids (not soon) I'm all about joining moms groups though, I will definitely need some advice and support haha. Also love your top!

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  9. It can be hard to put yourself out there as an adult! I wish it was as easy for adults to make friends as it is kids. But I'm so glad you did, and that you have what you needed. There's nothing like girlfriends!

    By the way, you look beautiful in these pictures!!!

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