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There was a time in my life (a little over a year ago) when I felt like I had no friends. I had the occasional girlfriend, but it was beyond casual. I was a happy wife, but my life consisted of working and spending time with my husband. I was so desperate for deep female friendship that I spent so many nights begging God for friends. It sounds so pitiful and desperate, but it's true.
Once I found out I was pregnant with Maddox I contemplated joining the moms group at our church. It consisted of meeting once a month for two hours with other moms of all statutes, sharing a breakfast, devotion and some small talk. I was hesitant to join because I didn't have a physical child in my arms yet, had no clue what being a mother looked like and beyond that, I was so desperate for friends I was almost scared to go looking for them.
One Sunday, this moms group had a booth set up in our lobby after service. Jon literally shoved me in their direction. Gently holding my baby belly I walked up to the two women standing in front of the booth and said, "I'm not a mom, but I'd love to join once I am." I will never forget, my now friend Lauren, grabbed my shoulders and said, "Are you kidding me? You are a mom! You are joining!"
And that was that.
In the last year I have been curating friendships with dozens of mothers. My heart has been shaped and transformed by these women. I now know what it feels like to be invested in by my friends and what it feels like to turn around and invest back into those friendships. I have the opportunities to bless expecting moms who are exactly where I was a little over a year ago with that sheepish grin and welcome them with open arms.
My weeks are full of playdates, momlife stories shared, lots of coffee and text messages exchanging momlife moments of the day.
God fulfilled a total void in my heart. But my biggest take away, something I reflect on daily, is being intentional to invest in these friendships. Invest in those around you who check in, send you cards, take time to send you a simple text. Pour back into those people in your life. It comes full circle.