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Mom Guilt

6.09.2016
Maternity Style, Summer Dress
Maternity Style, Summer Dress
Maternity Style, Summer Dress
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Maternity Style, Summer Dress
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Maternity Style, Summer Dress
Maternity Style, Summer Dress
Maternity Style, Summer Dress
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Maternity Style, Summer Dress
Maternity Style, Summer Dress

dress || similar jean jacket || similar sandals || hair tie bracelet (use themoderntulip for 20% off!) || bar necklace 


Lately I have caught myself numerous times begging pleading for time to slow down. This pregnancy is flying by and I'm struggling with the idea of having two kids. Actually, let me rephrase that. I am struggling with the idea of balancing focus, love, affection, one on one time, etc with two kids.

Maddox is the apple of my eye and when we are playing together my mind starts to wander as I picture having a baby girl in my arms during these scenarios. I keeping thinking, "how will I pay full attention to Maddox and show interest in every flower he hands me or cheerio he tries to feed me?" Instantly my heart sinks.

And vice versa, how will I manage to coo and snuggle and love on baby girl when I'm busy keeping Maddox from eating mulch and falling off curbs?

Am I awful? I don't want to come off sounding like I am not THRILLED to be blessed with another beautiful baby. And I know she is absolutely going to steal my heart in a new way. I am just sad and feeling a bit burdened at the thought of taking the 100% focus off Maddox and I'm worried about showing each of my precious babies the attention they deserve.

This is normal, right?

PS. Completely unrelated, but pertaining to this outfit, this dress is insanely comfortable. I bought it to wear to my best friends bridal brunch tomorrow and I'm so happy with it. I can move around easily with Maddox in it. Plus it fits my (ever growing) pregnant body perfectly without hugging me in all the wrong places if you know what I mean. And it's under $24 in a bunch of different Summery prints too!

12 comments on "Mom Guilt "
  1. You look beautiful! You are a great mommy!

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  2. <3 It will amaze you how effortlessly a 2nd child slips in and joins the family. I know it did me. Also, do you read Erica's blog (Whimsical September)? She just posted about this very thing today. You should give it a read, it's a wonderful post.

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  3. I'm going through the same though process! I keep trying to picture how I'm going to do it all once I have a second baby and it's completely overwhelming! I know that eventually it will all fall into place but I think there is going to be a big learning curve.

    My opinion is that you're a phenomenal mom just because you're worried about this! If you weren't a good mom you wouldn't care how your kids felt about life changes, but because you're worried about giving both your babies your love you've already proven to be the best mom ever.

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  4. My baby is 5 weeks and I'm still trying to figure this out! I think once we get through that fourth trimester we'll all be more adjusted (myself and the toddler included) and we'll have a routine and life will feel easier. It's no joke though!

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  5. I think every mom has those thoughts!! I know I did... but then number two comes around and you love both equally, and you find your groove and make it work. It was a huge learning curve for me, and I was a hot mess for quite a while, but we figured it out, and I know you can too!! :) All the best momma!! You got this!! :)

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  6. That dress is gorgeous on you! I'm only working on baby #1 right now, but I know if it was baby #2 I'd be feeling the same way. I've heard so many other moms feel that way, and it all comes together and works out perfectly. Your heart just grows and makes room for so much more love and time for both little ones <3
    Green Fashionista

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  7. We were totally meant to find each other's blogs and connect (thank you Britt!). I really can't get over how parallel our posts are today. Amazing. I'm so glad you found encouragement in my post. I can relate to every single thing you've written about here! <3 xoxo -Erica

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  8. You look stunning in that dress!

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  9. SO normal! I felt guilty when I got pregnant with my son, like I was cheating my daughter of time with just us. But, when it comes down to it, they both got time, love and undivided attention. Don't stress, it will all be ok and they will grow up so close and have a built in playmate! You are an awesome mom, it will be like second nature to you! xo

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  10. I think the fact that you're even thinking about it shows how good of a mom you are. And you look gorgeous!

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  11. I can't speak from experience, but I'm sure your fears/insecurities about welcoming another baby are completely normal! Given how sweet Maddox is, hopefully he will take to being a great big brother, and he will just want to be near you and his sister at all times, hopefully making it easier for you to divide the attention.

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  12. Having a second child was strangly emotional in so many ways. My older son (then, 2 years 3 months) suddenly seemed SO MUCH bigger so I was mourning what I felt like was a loss of his babyhood while being newly in love with my new baby boy. I constantly felt like I was cheating on one of them with my love and affection. It took a while to adjust to the new normal of having so much love for more than one child. I felt so caught off guard by all the feelings I had-I don't feel like people talk about it all that honestly. Yes, it is normal. It's hard to wear your heart outside your body with two sweet little beings. You're on the right track by acknowledging it now and dealing with some of those feelings ahead of time.

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