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Motherhood || Honest Confessions of a Mother

7.20.2016

 
It always amazes me when mothers are so willing to cast judgement upon another mother. We are all just trying to survive while loving and protecting our sticky little human sinners, right? So why do we feel the need to gawk at one mother's decision because it isn't one we'd make on our own? I can remember saying, "I will never do that when I'm a mom" and yes, I wish I could go back in time and slap my immature, judgemental self who was in dire need of a reality check. I didn't know what it was like then. Now I do. And I promise not to stare at you in disgust as your child reaches up and grabs apples at the grocery store only to throw them down in the floor. Instead I will pick up that apple and give you a warm smile that assures you I've been there and you AND your child are normal.


That actually happened to me at the grocery store the other day and it left me feeling annoyed at people and their lack of empathy, but it also caused me to think about the other things I do as a mother that would probably cause some more judgemental looks.

Confession time...

one // I give Maddox french fries and ice cream. I feed him fruit/kale smoothies and oatmeal and lean protein 95% of the time, but the other 5%? I'm doing what's convenient and running through a drive through. He's even tasted soda... the horror!

two // He watches cartoons at least twice a day. Usually 45mins in the morning while I slowly wake up, drink hot coffee and get breakfast going and another hour in the evening when I need to get dinner started or blog work done. I don't have a problem with screen time. In fact I need it to keep my sanity. Don't tell me you only allow 30 minutes of screen time a day if you are a stay at home mom. I'm going to have to call your bluff.

three // Sometimes my kid goes to bed with dirty feet. I would love to have the energy and be willing to fight the fight to bath my child every night, but "ain't nobody got time for that". If he's already cranky by the time dinner is over it is just survival mode to get his diaper changed and his booty in pajamas before prayers and bed. Leaning over the bathtub on my hands and knees to wash my child who doesn't like water in his face isn't my favorite pass time right now either at 30 weeks pregnant.

four // I let my child eat dirt. Sometimes I catch him scooping up some dirt or sand at the park and putting it into his mouth. I look at him and tell him "no, shew that's gross", but by no means do I go running to him to get it out or worry about the next handful he's probably going to consume. "God made dirt, dirt don't hurt" right? If you are the type of mom that frantically wipes their child's hand before it goes to their mouth than more power to you! I don't have the energy to keep that up 20,000 times a day! Would you die if I told you Maddox has also consumed a ladybug, mothball, dog food and a cigarette butt in his life time? The cigarette butt totally grossed me out, but it happened.

five // I breastfed Maddox until he weaned himself at 11 months old, but I would have ended it at 12 months regardless. He was becoming distracted often so it was making feedings quite difficult. But in all honesty when my child can come up to me and lift my shirt on his own I am really not comfortable feeding anymore. I will forever be grateful and happy to breastfeed for that first year of life. I count it as a HUGE blessing! There just won't be any 16 months, 19 months, 24 months happening over here.

So are you turning your nose up to me yet? Because I could go on. I've learned to be a laid back and get a bit of tough skin as a mom. People can have their opinions and you can't keep them from voicing them. So it's best to just learn to shrug it off. At the end of the day I love my children unconditionally and I will do everything to make them know that in their bones.

What's something you've done as a mother that you think would cause a judgemental stare or comment? And don't you tell me you don't have something. Surely you've left your kid in a dirty diaper too long or something!


23 comments on "Motherhood || Honest Confessions of a Mother"
  1. I'm not a mom (obivously) but I love the honesty of this post. Props to you, sometimes it's hard to really share what's on our hearts!

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  2. Love the honesty and keeping it real! :)

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  3. I totally agree mama! R weaned around a year too but it was so much effort at that age, I'm surprised I made it that long! And don't you even fret about that screen time!

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  4. Oh gosh.. where to even start with my parenting woes?! Haha! The thing I've learned about motherhood is you have to do what works for you. As long as the child is fed, loved, and safe, it's a no judgement zone here!

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  5. Keep it real girl! My kids are older but sometimes I just can't fight the "brush your teeth" fight in the summer . . . gross, for sure!!!

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  6. YES to all of this! You are definitely not alone! Here's to being each other's cheerleaders as mamas and forgetting all of that judgmental (ridiculous) nonsense.

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  7. There are all of the "best for your child" research and tips, but in the end, only a mom knows what's best for her child and her situation! When Bensen was only a few months old, he'd scream until he fell asleep from exhaustion any time Joe showered. Never did it with me, just Joe. So we'd turn on a Netflix Baby Einstein sing-a-long show for the 30 minutes that Joe was getting ready in the morning. SO many people gave us grief for letting our baby watch TV (because I made the mistake of asking people what a good show for babies was on FB....) but I would much rather my kid be happy listening to music that I know he loves than screaming his head off for half an hour instead.

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  8. I've been reading your blog for months now and have never commented. But this post was too good to pass up commenting on! Thanks for your honesty and humor, when my little guy was 4 months old he rolled off the bed... and lived! He's a healthy, strong willed almost one year old now with an extra thick skull ;)

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  9. haha LOVE this. we're watching curious george right now!! (violet's current favorite!) and there's no way we bathe her every night... no time for that! thanks for keeping it real. xo jillian - cornflake dreams

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  10. This post is awesome!!! You rock, mama! :) Xo -Anna
    www.parkavenueblogger.com

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  11. I adore you!!!! Yes to all of this!!!! Screen time is a lifesaver for getting dinner made and to occupy kids during that "witching" hour... and the dirt? having two boys I've completely given up. They are dirty a lot, eat dirt, dump dirt on each other... whatever. You are a great Momma!!!

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  12. I am all for the honesty on mom blogs - when we can be honest and relate to each other, that is where the beauty happens! Chloe gets plenty of healthy food but she also gets mac and cheese, pizza, etc. We do the best that we can - I had all these ideas about what my kid would eat and how I would parent back in the day, but now I have taken a more realistic approach. She also sees more TV than I would like but again, we do what we can and leave the rest behind! These are gorgeous pics, by the way. Love your blog <3

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    1. PS - this is Maya from MyLifeAsMaya ;)

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  13. So my mom confessions I am willing to admit are: my kid drops food on the floor in our house and picks it up and eats it, and I've stopped caring (too much); he has licked the floor trying to get crumbs, like our dogs; I am still nursing because I cannot stop him, but it drives me nuts when he lifts my shirt up or tries to pull it down (but I haven't stopped because it is the only way I can get him go down at night right now). He has eaten dirt, sand, dog food, dog treats, and probably more things that I don't know about. You are doing a great job, mama, and I love reading your honest posts!

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  14. Oh girl! There are so many in my 13 years of mamahood that I could list. It doesn't stop when they get older. There are still times I give up the fight with my teenager because i've learned to pick my battles. Guess what though? We've both survived his life this long. I think we're doing alright and so are you, mama.

    All the mamas reading this are doing alright. No matter what you do or how you do it, someone else is always going to have an opinion. You just have to learn how to have thick skin and shrug it off and keeping doing what's best for your babies (big and small).

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  15. I let Mason ear almost everything I eat. So when I eat chocolate cake and sourheads he is tasting it too! And he showers every other day sometimes I'm too tired and make it 2 days lol

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  16. Haha I love this! My kids watch tv and go on the iPad. They don't nap anymore so I NEED that time to regroup and get things done! I hate when people say "I'd never do that" or "my kid will never do that". Yeah ok, become a mom and THEN judge! It's not at all easy so you do what you need to survive!

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  17. So proud of you for sharing this! I am not a mother and I know nothing about raising kids but I fully support the way you chose to raise yours! Everybody had their own ways and it's so important not to judge anybody's decisions. You do you mamma!

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  18. I'm a Stepmom to a 12 year old boy. The dirty feet thing is still not worth the battle at this age ;) We do it sometimes too...oh how awful haha. Love the honesty in this post, thanks for sharing!

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  19. Love this honest post! You're a great mother regardless of what other people say.
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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  20. Love this honest post! You're a great mother regardless of what other people say.
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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