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Motherhood || Preparing For the PostPartum No One Talks About

8.01.2016
Zella Leggings (wearing size small for reference) || Top || Vans Slip Ons || bracelet 

Real quick, these Zella leggings were the first to arrive from my Nsale purchases and I'm so smitten with them. I saw so many ladies raving about their softness, comfort and how long they last that I had to have a pair of my own. I live in leggings during the Fall anyway so I'm thinking I need to snag another while they are still in stock! I am wearing size small and they still fit snug while pregnant. I think they will be just perfect once I'm back to my pre-baby body. 

Speaking of life after baby...

It seems like no one ever talks about the more unfortunate things to happen postpartum. I get it, there is a beautiful new human life, why focus on the bad. Truly the good outweighs the bad, but it doesn't keep it from happening. So let's be real and open with one another for a hot second, mmkay? 

More or less I'm just trying to prepare myself for what I now is coming in the next 8 weeks or so.

one // your ta-ta's will never be the same. No matter what size and shape you were before, you will never be that shape and size again. Not to mention the excruciating pain of waiting too long to nurse. It's like someone inserted a brick in your breast and the only relief is to nurse, pump or express.

two // you are basically changing multiple diapers, not just your newborns. The bleeding is pretty constant so keeping up with just changing yourself is job enough.

three // postpartum depression is real and can be a beast. I struggled with depression after Maddox was born and it took me a long time to admit it to myself. I couldn't figure out how I could be so unhappy at moments when I had the most beautiful gift in my arms, but it happens. Being honest with friends and family seriously helps - talk it out. It's nothing to be embarrassed about! So many of us deal with it and the beauty is... it passes!

four // leakage. So much leakage. Through your clothes and your sheets. It becomes a game to try and see how long you can last in a shirt before you have to change it. Even through nursing pads...

five // hemorrhoids. My nemesis. I had a terrible time with them after Maddox was born because I pushed SO hard and vigorously. I honestly would have given birth 10 times over than have to deal with those little punks. 

six // Speaking of hemorrhoids, constipation. I wish someone had told me it was going to take weeks before I would ever poop again and that when I did it was going to be terrifying and painful.

seven // feeling out of whack. Your body just went through something crazy and now whether it's your first or your fifth child, your schedule and world have been flipped upside down. Do things to make yourself feel normal again. Shower daily even if you are slipping into fresh leggings and a t-shirt from your leaked through pj's. Nap when the baby naps (something I never did with Maddox and should have!). Take care of yourself!

Welp, now that we are all close and personal I hope you still have a small ounce of respect for me after this post. All of these things are crazy and true, but it's part of the process and you are not the only one dealing with it so don't be afraid to talk to another mama friend openly and honestly. It will only make you feel normal. These are definitely things mamas alike can appreciate and pre-mama's need to mentally prepare for.


15 comments on "Motherhood || Preparing For the PostPartum No One Talks About "
  1. Thanks for sharing this!! As someone who hasn't had kids yet, I learned a lot!

    Her Heartland Soul
    herheartlandsoul.com

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  2. YES. Why does no one talk about these things?! It was not a fun thing to discover on my own haha!

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  3. Thank you for the honesty! As someone who is starting to think about having children its nice to get a "real" feel for what is to come!

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  4. Love how honest and open this post is! These definitely are things that women shouldn't be afraid to discuss or reach out for help for - it's all part of the process, right?!

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  5. Wow you learn something new everyday! And I love this whole grunge look of these photos
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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  6. Wow you learn something new everyday! And I love this whole grunge look of these photos
    -kate
    Katekoutures.blogspot.com

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  7. I could give birth any time as long as it meant no hemorrhoids...and if pooping again wasn't so scary!

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  8. It's crazy how we all experience those things but no one ever tells you about them!

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  9. Thank you so much for your real and honest list of what to expect after giving birth, because most people and websites make it seem all rainbows and butterflies! I'm counting down the weeks now til we meet baby girl, and it really helps to be fully prepared for all the amazing and not so amazing things that I will encounter once she's here. And those leggings - LOVE! I picked up a pair of Zella's high rise leggings for my current workouts since they fit over the ever growing bump <3
    Green Fashionista

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  10. Ditto for the leakage, boob pain, and the dreaded H-word! They are THE WORST! Love your ability to share the tough parts of birthing a baby, yet your uplifting message that is there, too!

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  11. Unfortunately I was not able to nap when our son napped. I simply was not tired at the same time and would just toss and turn.

    Something else that people don't talk about is how the hormonal changes can cause migraine headaches. I had migraine headaches, with neurological complications, for the first three months after our son was born.

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  12. Have you ever looked in to placenta encapsulation? Sounds crazy, I know :) but I did it with my little guy (13 months now) and I had very mild post partum bleeding. I have nothing to compare it to as I've never had a post partum without it but I didn't really experience a lot of the extreme emotions many new moms talk about either. But I remember wondering if I would ever feel like myself again....and I would always remind myself that while the days are long, the years are short! You got this!!

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  13. Thank you! There is so much mystery surrounding life immediately after baby and I've been so anxious/curious about what to expect this fall! I so appreciate your honesty about everything-if it weren't for posts like these, I can definitely see myself feeling incredibly isolated and worried about what is/isn't normal. I'm absolutely saving this to read again closer to my due date as a reminder.

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  14. Oh Lord, yes yes yes. It's such a mess, but isn't it crazy how that sweet baby makes up for allll of it?! I can't wait for you to meet your baby girl!

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