I figured it was about time I wrote this requested post (or wrote any post at all rather) before I no longer have two under two. Wahhh Maddox turns two on Sunday.
It's been the most common question I've received since I've had Emery. "How is it being a mom to two under two"? And to that I have no simple answer. It's wonderful, eventful, chaotic, fulfilling, tiresome, incredible, a learning curve... haha how's that for an answer?
I love having these two babies so close in age. They are 18 months apart and I swear when I was pregnant with Emery and told people that they would get big eyes and say, "you sure are going to have your hands full. Good luck!" They were right - I do have my hands full, but I truly do love it! And I wouldn't have it any other way.
It's honestly not as difficult as I thought it would be. Maddox sort of 'stepped up to the plate' if you will after Emery was born. I had spent the last few months of my pregnancy trying to prepare him the best I could. I taught him to climb the stairs on his own, hold my hand when walking in public, put his dishes in the sink. Things that would make my life a little easier with a newborn. I definitely recommend doing that if you are in a similar position with this age gap.
Once Emery was born Maddox had about two weeks of extreme jealousy. I was devastated and kept thinking, "what have I done"? So those first few weeks were really just survival mode with a newborn and jealous/needy toddler. I started having him become "mommies helper" by throwing away her diapers, carrying her paci, helping me get her dressed. Anything I could do to make him feel needed. And I would praise him so highly for doing these things. That was a huge game changer for us. He lost his jealousy and started being really helpful. He still ignored her almost all the time, but at least he wasn't crying on my leg anymore while I fed her.
And now that she's 5 1/2 months old and sitting up, laughing at whatever Maddox does, playing with toys, reaching for things, etc it's almost as if Maddox finally sees her as a sibling. Someone to play with. He brings her toys, takes her toys away #workingonit, pats her head, gives her kisses, and my personal favorite, he does things to make her laugh. It's the best to watch their sibling bond truly begin and I can't wait to see it grow deeper and stronger!
I would have to say the hardest part has been learning how to balance it all with another humans schedule. Sometimes they don't nap simultaneously and this used to drive me nuts, but now I see it as one on one time with each kid. Perspective is everything. Sometimes one is cranky and the other is pure bliss, sometimes they are both up in the night. It's one more person to take care of, but I've learned to roll with the punches and expect that no two days will look alike.
So to wrap this up, two under two has been a whirlwind, but I'd do it again in a heartbeat because nothing else matters in the grand scheme of things. These babies continue to fill my heart with overwhelming joy. Joy that hurts! Joy that causes me to scroll through their pictures after they've gone to bed. Joy that make me feel like I could physically burst when I stare at them.
Okay I'm rambling now, but being a mom to two under two rocks! Perhaps I should shoot for three under three? #kidding #sortof #givemeallthebabies #noimnotpregnant